My story
I was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD later in life, which has profoundly influenced my journey as a father and husband. I’m still struggling to make sense of things – I think sharing my story on this site might help me understand things better, and maybe help a few others in the process.
Impact on family
My late diagnosis has opened my eyes to how these differences shape my interactions with my family. As a father, I strive to create a supportive environment that acknowledges our unique challenges and strengths.
Work and career
In my career as a software engineer, I leverage my ADHD and Autism to approach problem-solving in creative ways. These traits have made me adaptable and innovative, allowing me to thrive in the tech industry.
Reflection
Living with Autism and ADHD means continuous learning and adaptation. Each experience shapes my perspective, enriching my life and helping me grow as an individual and a family man.
What’s in this blog?
Being diagnosed later in life means I’ve spent decades knowing there was something fundamentally different about me, but I’ve never been able to see a predictable pattern to my ‘oddness’. I’d do or say something which would leave people silent, or I’d notice people had ‘switched off’ while I was talking about something. Some people would avoid me. Some people saw an opportunity to take advantage, when they realised I would default to being kind and helpful, assuming there would be reciprocation. My attitude toward authority figures has caused trouble since high school, and lost me a few decent jobs. Before diagnosis, I saw myself as difficult, contrary, annoying, broken, boring, over-excitable, arrogant, and unwanted. Since finding out I have ADHD and Autism, I understand that this is my experience of other people’s reactions to me – they aren’t me. But I’m still trying to work out if that’s of any help to me at all.
AuDHD Daddy 